In my view there may be grounds for divorce in cases for example of persistent abuse or serial adultery when one or both parties have lost hope for the marriage or when one party or children are in real danger.
Having walked through the pain of divorce with many families, here are some things I have learnt so far if divorce seems the only remaining option:
- Keep talking if possible. It is much cheaper than using solicitors.
- Avoid going to court - it costs financially and emotionally.
- Get good advice from an experienced counsellor.
- Buy yourself time. Don't be hasty - there is too much at stake.
- If you are unable to talk and agree settlement then mediation may help.
- Keep talking for the sake of the children. They still need mum & dad to be cordial.
- Do not use your children as a weapon e.g. withholding access due to bitterness.
- Consider very carefully the financial cost of divorce. It will shock you.
- Consider the impact on your children. They will be affected for ever.
- Consider the impact on your health. Divorcing couples often experience emotional trauma.
You may need to see a doctor. - Learn to forgive.
- Is divorce really your only option?
- Keep praying. God listens and miracles do happen.
If you have experienced the pain of divorce you might like to view Divorce Recovery on: http://www.drw.org.uk/
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