100 Romantic Ideas

100 Romantic Ideas
For Marriages & Relationships

Wednesday, 19 June 2019

100 Romantic Ideas #41-60

Sometimes the best thing you can do is put something in the diary, otherwise it just doesn't happen. This might include intimate time together. With busy lives, children, work, other family commitments and general tiredness, intimate time can get squeezed out. We all know it is important. As we get older, agreeing a time for intimacy can help.
Other helps might include:

  • Choose a time you are both awake!
  • Enjoy the anticipation
  • Flirt during the day
  • Touch often
  • Send each other texts
  • Be all there
  • Talk about what you like
  • Have a shower or bath
  • Smell nice
  • Brush your teeth
  • Clean sheets
  • Tidy room
  • Fragrant candles
  • Soft music
  • Take your time
  • Lock on the door
  • No phones 
  • Cuddle lots
  • Don't rush off

Tuesday, 11 June 2019

100 Romantic Ideas #26-40 by Beverley!

My definition of Romance would be an action taken that ignites and increases the feeling of love. Here are some:
  • surprises
  • homemade presents
  • flowers
  • cards 
  • newspaper letters cut out in a message
  • emails
  • tickets 
  • a nice date day in the diary
  • chatting in the car
  • a meal cooked
  • going for a walk and talk
  • listening to the radio together
  • commenting and conversation about what we have read 
  • looking at photos of our holidays and of the family
  • making up stories

Tuesday, 28 May 2019

100 Romantic Ideas #5-25

Dance to that song
Curl up on the sofa
Watch a movie
(that she likes!)
Go for a walk
Hold hands
Hug slow
Kiss long
Touch often
Look longingly
Speak softly
Cook dinner
Light candles
Take time
Watch the rain
Watch the sunset
Watch the clouds
Watch each other
Write a poem
Write a letter
Talk often
Smell nice

Friday, 24 May 2019

Thursday, 23 May 2019

100 Romantic Ideas #4 reading together

Read a book together, or one of you read to the other and talk about it. We have read and can recommend:

  • Song of Songs from The Bible 
  • The Nations Favourite Love Poems by Daisy Goodwin
  • The Second half of Marriage by David & Claudia Arp
  • The 5 Sex Needs of Men & Women by Gary & Barbara Roseberg
  • The Marriage Book by Nikki & Silla Lee
  • My wife likes me to read Jane Austin to her...

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Wednesday, 15 May 2019

100 Romantic Ideas #2 Understanding Love Languages

Understanding your preferred Love Language and that of your partner (or the one you are pursuing!) can help in terms of successful Romance. In other words - what do you like and what does your partner like? Understanding Love Languages may also help you connect as a single person in a meaningful way.
Here they are, based on Gary Chapman's best selling book:
1. Words of affirmation.
2. Gifts.
3. Physical touch.
4. Acts of service.
5. Quality time.
Which do you prefer? Which do you think your partner prefers?


Tuesday, 14 May 2019

100 Romantic ideas...#1 The Weekend Away

This blog series comes at a time when we all see friends' marriages and relationships fraying or failing. Relationships require time and investment. So, let's help each other by thinking of creative ways of putting the Romance back into our marriage and relationships.
100 Romantic ideas #1 The weekend Away.
Let's start BIG.
Every year we have tried to have a w\e away together, even one night. When the children were small too. Ask parents or trusted friends to help you by looking after the children if you can. You might be able to return the favour. Two nights away is best, if you can manage it. It feels more of a proper break. It doesn't have to be expensive and you don't have to go far - within 2 hours of home is ideal. Sites like Booking.com and Airbnb will give you plenty of ideas. If you feel more adventurous others like ba.com have good City Break deals. When we had no money we would borrow a friend's (empty) house for the w\e or save up Tesco Clubcard vouchers. Your marriage, your relationship, your partner is worth the investment.

Friday, 26 April 2019

Learning a new language - Social Services Speak

Now we are in the Social Services system, through fostering, there are meetings to attend. At these meetings there is a language to learn with unfamiliar words. As in any profession, there are words, code words, abbreviations and strange things to say. The medical profession is well known for its unique language. I have learnt new words like: LAC (Looked After Child), CAMHS (Child Adult Mental Health Services), PIP (Personal Independent Plan), PEP (Personal Education Plan), IRO (Independent Review Officer) and HELP!

Thursday, 4 April 2019

Book Review: Through by Steve Chick

Steve Chick leads Hope Church Winchester. He has written a book about the cries of Jesus whilst hanging on the cross. It is very good. So are the pictures. Through refers to the hope we have through those cries. Steve successfully combines Biblical and historical truth with personal stories, anecdotes and quotes. The illustrations of how redwood trees weave their roots together to support each other; the power in the word telelestai - "it is finished"; the typology of the 2 angels in the garden on Resurrection Day; Aslan's "There is no other Stream" in The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe, will stay long in the memory (hopefully!). A very good Easter read.

Friday, 29 March 2019

Mark's Book Review of The Salt Path by Raynor Winn

This book is extraordinary. It is a true story. It is extraordinary that a couple in the 50s who loose their home and receive a very bad health diagnosis should decide to walk the 620 mile South West Coastal Path. The story of them having little or no money, wild camping in their flimsy tent against the elements is a compelling read. What is also interesting is the positive health benefits the long walk has on Moth (Raynor's husband). The scenery, the people they meet, what they learn about homelessness all make for an interesting read.
If you are going on holiday to Cornwall or Devon this year - this could be the book for you!

Wednesday, 27 March 2019

Current Trends and implications for how we run churches

I am trying to figure out how current trends affect how we run churches...

  • Most people date online so pastorally, should we encourage church folk to do the same?
  • Most relationships end by a text - how do we encourage honest, face to face conversation?
  • Consumers like good coffee not in a single use cup - should we encourage church folk to bring their own cup and should we serve good coffee?
  • In caring for the environment should we encourage church goers to car share?
  • In a digital\visual age how do we create first rate visuals for Sunday morning and what is the best online presence of church?
  • What percentage of the church budget should go to media?
  • In order to appeal to Millenials, what is the optimum length of a Sunday message?
  • How welcoming is church to the LGBT+ community?
  • What would Jesus say about your church?

Just thinking...

Thursday, 21 March 2019

Highlights of Prayer for the Nation at Westminster

Having been asked about this event, let me give you some highlights: 600 church leaders, organised by Newfrontiers, gathered at Westminster on Wednesday 20th March to pray. We would probably all agree that now is a good time to pray for the UK: Brexit, increased knife crime, fractures in society, 800 abortions a day, fault lines in the political system...we need to ask God for help.
Simon Brading ably lead worship to focus; Guy Miller lead us thoughtfully through present culturally challenges to help us pray; Mike Betts helped us pray in the afternoon with pastors, politician, police officer, community workers all helping. We left more hopeful, comforted in knowing that God is not worried. He is not anxious. He is still there. He hears...

Friday, 15 March 2019

Highlights of Commission Prayer & Fasting

I am basking in the goodness of Commission Prayer & Fasting: 2 days away this week with other church leaders from the Commission family of churches. We worshipped together and lingered and were refreshed in God's presence; we prayed for the UK, 6 churches going for buildings; the wider Newfrontiers family; churches in other nations - USA, Portugal, Spain, the Philippines; had a great Skype prayer time with India; were introduced to leaders from Croatia, Serbia and Austria who had joined us; most challenging was hearing from James (not his real name) from a M. country where violence, fleeing, assault rifles and security checks are part of his church life experience.
Blessed, refreshed, humbled and challenged.

Thursday, 28 February 2019

Working hard on a CAP Debt Centre

CAP stands for Christians Against Poverty. They are a Bradford based charity that helps lift thousands of people out of poverty and debt in the UK. Martin Lewis, www.moneysavingexpet.com, is a great fan. I am working hard with Will Hunter-Smart, the Rector of St Nics, to establish a CAP Debt Centre to serve Newbury and the surrounding area. A Steering Group has been formed from different churches to pave the way.
The genius of CAP is that they act as advocate for the client. They speak to the debtors. They take the heat. They negotiate. Local befrienders support the individual or family.
I am hoping we can interview for the post of Newbury Debt Centre Manager in April this year. Exciting...

Friday, 15 February 2019

Mark's book review of: The Divine Dance by Richard Rohr

I enjoyed this book. I understand it is not to everyone's taste, given that Richard Rohr is a Roman Catholic theologian and mystic. He is also well read and very spiritual. Books like this make you think and the language used helps you think more. For instance:
"Even your mistakes will be used in your favour, if you allow them to be. That's how good God is."
"You are a travelling ark of the covenant".
"God does not love you because you are good. God loves you because He is good".
...See what I mean?
But the reason I bought this book was to learn more about the mystery we call The Trinity (God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit). Richard Rohr does not disappoint. He helps us choose different metaphors in thinking of the Trinity, hence The Divine Dance. More than that, he says, we are invited to the dance. Brilliant.