Parenting Adult Children 2 - When to offer advice...

I have 4 adult children. 3 are married. I have good relationships with all of them. We talk often about almost everything. The question comes when to offer an advice?. I am still working on that. Gone are the days of them doing what they were told. Now they are adults the relationship, the telling what to do, changes. It must. One way forward is to wait until your advice is sought. Put it another way: do they want your advice?! If you have a good relationship with your adult child, advice seeking might happen easily, naturally and often. This kind of collaberative decision making relationship starts, as ever, when they are young. Maybe ask a question rather than telling. Using phrases like "Perhaps you might think about...", "It might be worth considering...", or even better "What do you think is the best course of action...?" This empowers the child, whatever age, to think through, make the decision, take personal responsibilty and grow. As a parent of a child with special needs, this can all change of course. More decisions may need to be made by the parent. Including the adult child in decisions, or at least giving reason and explanation remain good and loving principles. What helps have you found ...?